The only thing you need to find love is you. Everything else will fall into place. Here is a guaranteed approach to catching the perfect friend who has actually been there all along.
The old saying, “There’s someone out there for everyone” is a bit misleading. This implies there is only one when, in fact, no matter whom you are what you look like or how obnoxious you can be there is a world of others out there that will adore you. You just have to put yourself out there the right way.
Put yourself in the right frame of mind. This is the first step so you don’t stand in the wind awkward like a wallflower. Introduce yourself to you and have a real conversation with you. I know, it seems silly but you may find out how little you really know about yourself. We push so much of what makes us unique and special underneath a persona we believe the world will accept until we lose who we are. Ask yourself the questions you would ask a potential friend or partner and find out what is important to you in a relationship and what you have to offer in a relationship. You will begin to feel comfortable in your own skin and will love yourself for who you are with all your flaws. Remember to strengthen this relationship with yourself. Don’t just let this be a chance encounter. And take yourself out on dates. You will soon find that you have met the closest friend you will ever have. And when you have crossed this threshold you will be ready to present this very special friend to others.
Like books, we each have a story to tell others. The way we dress and the way we carry ourselves is like the cover art to what lies within our pages. So don’t dress up like the model in the magazines and don’t let others tell you how you should dress. How someone else presents themselves to the world is the cover art of their story not yours. Display yourself honestly and true to who you are.
Our concept of beauty may simply be a comparison of someone we consider beautiful. Focus upon the aspects of yourself that are beautiful because that is what others do. It’s a fact that a guy will only see a woman’s breasts at first glance and may not even bother to notice the rest of her until she places her finger under his chin and raises his head. A girl is no different. A wicked grin or mysterious dark eyes will capture her gaze like something shiny in the distance.
Even when she surely inspects the rest of you she will remember that one thing that attracted her to you at first glance. We are subconsciously drawn to our favorite parts of others and everything else is relative. So don’t judge yourself too harshly as an overall presentation.
Judgment is a key factor as well. As we judge others so they also judge us. My dad would lean back in his chair and tell my mom with a wicked smile, “A smart fish will circle a hook three times before she bites.” She was never amused by this but it never failed him. It’s true. Don’t let the judgment of others make you doubt yourself. They may not know what they are looking at but they can not deny… they looked.
How you carry yourself should also be an honest representation of you and how you feel at the moment. Don’t hold you head up high and chin up if that isn’t how you feel. Be shy if you want and add a curious glance to someone across the room. Smile slightly when your eyes meet and then look away as if guilty of something. This is the art of making everything about you an asset rather than a liability.
Most of what makes us beautiful to others is how they feel about us. And all of what makes us beautiful is how we feel about ourselves. I think the best compliment I ever received was, “You look really good to me… I didn’t always think so.”
Previously Posted on FullofKnowlege.com
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